Since I do hantarans,
I was asked by many about Hantaran..
So I shall share it with you what i do know (and share apa orang2 tua cakap too) all about HANTARAN.
Normally it started with definition,but i guess in this case i shall skiped it!
1. How many dulang hantaran is the best practice?
There is NO specific how many hantarans are essentials. It is very much dependable upon agreement both sides of family during merisik and engagement ceremony. Although some bride & groom preferred they decide themselves.
However ikut ADAT, there should be in no. ganjil. (5 balas 7) (7 balas 9) (9 balas 11) and etc.
But my dear brides-to-be, now in MODERN life-it seriously isnt about the quantity.Its all about quality! After all it is a 'gift'for our loves one! Why not to spent a lil bit more!
Mya's Tips: By mixing barang2 like (wallet & belt) (Handbag& Shoes) (Fruits&Chocs) can save total quantity of dulangs! It save cost too!
2. What to give as barang hantaran ?
It is always to be reminded that to combine ADAT & MODERN life. Why? Kitakan orang melayu. Penuh adat resam. Since we have skipped many in our daily life so why not save some during wedding! Plus,it will make our mom happy too!
Ikut ADAT, Tepak Sireh or Sireh Junjung is a must! Its like a 'penghulu' of all hantaran. If during discussion, they want tepak sireh then tepak sireh it is. If possible biarlah complete with daun sireh,pinang,gambir and kapur. To read more,view here
It is also advisable that all barang hantarans to be mixed with not only material stuff! U know what i mean! Fruits, Cakes, Cupcakes,Halwa or any other kind of pastry or manisan will be nice. It is at least something can be shared with the rest of the family.
Mya'sTips: Buy a good quality fruits (Seedless grapes, dragon fruits or fresh strawberries hantaran). It look nice on ur hantaran and look spledid too! Avoid buying buttercream cakes as its easily melt. We do not want messy hantaran dont we? And pleaseee my dear brides, do not buy a cake from any bakery and straight away put the cake WITH the box on top of your dulang hantaran. Its as if u do not appreciate the art of hantaran. Yes i know it might be the best cake u ever taste but in the box? At least took it out !
Islamic barang are also highly recommended. Stuff like Telekung, Al-Quran, Sejadah, Songkok and Tasbih will make and look its all balanced. Please do not give a reason u cant find something nice & decent to match with the whole concept hantaran as there are now many beautiful & gorgeous design if u managed to visit Jalan T.A.R or everywhere else.
Mya's Tips: Do not find something extraordinary thick or large in size of telekung or sejadah. It will make the dulang extra heavy and complicate during gubahan hanataran process. A simple for ordinary use material will be perfect!
As other stuff, it very much depends on bride & groom's favourite. Brides-to-be seems expert nowadays giving really nice & cool hantaran. Please do not afraid to be out of the box by giving casual loafers ladies shoes or digital cameras or books or pair of gloves or even PS3. As long these makes u both happy! why not!
Mya's Tips: Get something that bride & groom can and will use/apply after marriage. Not something that look nice but with high potential not to be used then. For sweet memory purpose, get something else that your ordinary used. Example- if you are loyal fan of GUESS Handbags, for a change try other brands. At least it will create that 'this is my hantaran' factor& feelings when you share this with your friends & family ...(u know what i mean right?)